February Monthly Resolution – Fearless Month

The plan: February is Fearless Month.

Many of you know that I occasionally do Monthly Resolutions instead of yearly. This means less of a commitment than usual. The last yearly resolution I did was to eat vegetarian at restaurants for a year. It was eye opening, and I was very thankful that I lived in SF and not Arizona. That said, I found 12 months of strictness to be overwhelming. This next month is going to be an interesting experiment. I’ve been doing 6-pack abs month for January and I’m down about 16 lbs, eating more healthily, exercising more, and in general feeling better about myself. Fearless month is going to be much more mental than physical.

Fearless month is, in and of itself, intimidating. I’ve been paying attention to all of the things I do every day that are fear-based. Or rather, many of the things I DON’T do as a result of fear. The people I don’t talk to, the actions I don’t take. But there’s a lot of questions I have around fear in general.

Is politeness a result of fear? If I’m unselfish, is that motivated by a desire to be nice, or a desire to nto upset the status quo? I’m going to have to do a lot of introspection this month to really get to the root of my true motivations for things. This may also mean me trying things and evaluating the results.

This leads me to the rules of the month, too. The basic concept is this: If there’s something I would normally not do as a result of fear, I should feel compelled to do it. Obviously this is a very flawed statement. I shouldn’t go running through traffic, jumping off buildings, or stabbing people just because I’d be afraid of the result. So, revision is in order: If I would normally not do something and the result would not produce lingering negative results on my life, I should do it.

There’s some other rules I think I need to stick to, as well. I shouldn’t quit my job, spend all my money, eat things that make me sick, etc. Most of the things I’m imagining have to do with social phobias, physical challenges, and essentially a lot of the laziness in my life. Two years ago, I did “one extra step month” which meant that if I could, I should take one extra step with everything I did. When I would wash the dishes, I’d also clean a counter, when I’d walk to work, I’d go an extra block. It was amazing how one extra step added up and made a better day. The main reason for not taking an extra step seems to be laziness, and the main reason for laziness seems to be fear. I’m looking forward to trying this out.

Oh yeah, and as an added benefit to Fearless Month, I don’t see any reason other than fear to not keep going with cumulative 6-pack abs months, especially since I can’t see them yet.

One Reply to “February Monthly Resolution – Fearless Month”

  1. Congratulations on being down 16 lbs, especially considering you’ve added muscle.
    Like you, I’ve been contemplating elements of (my) life and behavior that bear the need for scrutiny, since they may not allow me to be my best or achieve more happiness. Fear is one of those. I took a different tack, though, mine being motivated to lose my fear of things over which I have no control, or which are feared because I’ve been “trained” to fear them, as well as self-inflicted, ingrained fears that seemingly have no rational basis.
    I don’t believe politeness is a result of fear, but your question continues to wondering about the motivation for politeness, and to the motivation for many usual behaviors. I suspect you’ll learn a lot about a lot of things that may have nothing to do with fear in particular while on this path.
    One of the things I’ve been examining is our desire or need to “lie” in many situations and the motivations for this. Politeness is a good example here: we lie to Aunt Martha and tell her we like her cheesecake when, in fact, it tastes awful. This occurs to varying degrees, depending on the circumstance. We lie to prospective bosses, to our parents, spouses, friends, co-workers, ourselves all the time, often without realizing it. One day, I tracked the number of times it happened, and found 10 separate incidents (assuming I caught them all).
    But back to fearlessness. An interesting note: one day, listening to the radio, an ad for a church suggested I let go of my fears and put my faith in Jesus, who would take care of me. This message sank in somewhere it normally doesn’t, and I wholeheartedly imagined giving up my fears and letting go. This thought was liberating in a way I couldn’t believe. So, while I’m not handing over my fears to Jesus, I have been trying to give them to the aether, which doesn’t seem to mind.
    You say that you think the main reason for laziness is fear. I think fear might cause laziness, but I’m not sure your statement is valid. I suspect laziness for some people stems from a simple lack of goals. But these are all good things to consider, and yes – keep going with the exercise regimen if if makes you happy! (And six-pack abs aren’t too bad…)

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